shes terrified of me she hides when im in the room and plays dead when i come over to the tank shes scared of me

I have seen this type of question so many times. It will just take time for the fish to become used to you. No sudden movements and approach the tank slowly. You could try and use food to tempt the fish to your hand so that it associates you being there with being fed. I think it's just going to be a case of you making the fish realise that you are there and you are no threat. It will come around in the end so don't worry.

When I first got my oscars they stayed uner a rock and then they couldn't fit so If I was within 3 feet they would hide behind it unless they were eating but after about a month of feeding and just observing them they don't care who is in the room. Is your tank in a bhedroom or a room that doesnt have much activity? IF so maybe it just is not use to things moving around it. Either way I am sure the solution is time and in a few weeks they will swim happily as you approach.

Typical of all new fish. However the playing dead gets me. Is this only when you are present? Do they have a cave they can retreat to?

Cheers,
Art

there is no cave but tons of plants she swims around when im laying on my bed when she thinks im not watching but as soon as i approach her she lays on her side and plays dead behind the plants or around the filter

Give it a week or so and the fish will probably be used to you. The fact your fish is acting ok until you go near to the tank and is eating means that you dont have anything to worry about