I just found out today, that my ex boyfriends mum has only four months to live. She has had cancer for years, and has been in remission for many. But they only found out recently. It hurts so bad, she is such a beautiful person and all I want to do is be there for my ex but I can't as it's just not possible. It's killing me, as all I can do is let him know how sorry I am and how much it hurts me also. Life is so hard. It's harder because knowing something I can't do anything about kills me. And I know it is going to kill him when she goes. But I can't do anything. God this is crap. It hurts so much. Sorry, I had to get that off my chest, it's killing me.

I feel for you Pooks. My best friend who I went to school with died of liver cancer two years ago last Wednesday, I went to the crematorium where his ashes have been scattered. God can be so cruel sometimes. Especially when people die when they are too young. My mate was only 35. Chin up if you can.

Hi Pooky

I hope you do OK through this tough period. I have had a similar thing happen to me. Since there is no illness / pain in heaven, I guess that God isn't being cruel by taking some people away from us, just ending their suffering.

Thanx guys. It's just tough knowing I can't do anything, and I can't be there for either of them.
I'll try to keep my chin up. I know things happen, but life goes on....