i know it might seem kinda shitty of me to post this on here, but right now i don't care. the first day of 2010 isn't even over yet, and it hasn't had a good beginning. my girlfriend of 4 years cheated on me last night, so needless to say we are splitting up.
this shit really sucks, i feel like i have wasted 4 years of my fucking life. the worst part of the whole thing is that i am basically a father to her 5 year old daughter. i have been around since she was 1 year old, and have been in the father-figure position ever since.
What do i do about that? i have no real right to see her, and don't know if I should. I don't want her to feel abandoned. I don't really know anything right now.

anyways... i'm just thinking about everything i have to do now as far as moving... and i am not looking forward to moving 3 tanks. but i guess that should be the least of my worries at the moment...

sorry man you should have let her ass have it :angry:

sorry man that your year is like this already

rent a wood chipper.... you know the rest.

Is there any hope in salvaging your relationship? Counseling maybe? Shit happens ya know. (Can't say I'd be real forgiving either though if I were in your shoes.) As far as seeing the daughter - maybe you can work something out so that you can still be in her life. It will really upset her if you're suddenly gone. It'll be like abandonment to her.

Really sorry to hear that man...hope everything works out for you. I know the feeling. Just know that things will get better and you will find someone who respects and cares for you enough not to do something that awful. I can't really give you any advice about her kid though..sorry. Whatever happens I hope I hope it works out for you.

Hi Travis, sorry to hear that.....it really sucks.... but to think of it,
it is better to happen this early than later. just remember, you give your
best and love unconditionally. it is her her loss, not yours. I just pitty the
kid who will be affected by this development.

Chin up.....You deserve a better deal than her.....

That really sucks, especially the first day of a new decade. I know it's easy for an outsider to say that maybe you can salvage something. It's easy for me to say forgive, but if I was in no position I think I would would be pretty pissed as well.

I've never had much luck with the relationships which is probably why I am still single, women just don't seem to like me, I wonder why....

anyway, you can always let off as much steam as you want here, you have my permission

Thor, I am sorry bud... I know the feeling, things on this end of the word are NO BETTER!!! it is less that 24 hours into 2010 and I QUIT!!!

Sorry about that Thor.. I was in your same spot (minus kids) and had to start my life all over again. I did forgive and try to work it out but surprisingly within 2 months he cheated again.. this time with my friend. They are happily married now and I am happily in FL with my man. It isn't easy but keep your friends close (and your enemies closer) and remember you did nothing wrong!

that sucks big time.
I think you deserve a better year than last, but this start seems not to be helping.
I can relate to the situation somewhat,for my first wife couldn't keep her pants on.
She started a relation with a very ugly, skinny woman, who actually worked at my company, and whom she met on my weddingday...
The years I spent with her seemed like a total waste.
Finally i told her to take her s#it and leave the dog.
She left all of her stuff and took the dog.
I dropped back into addictions, but in the end it paved the way for the life i got now.

I found a new wife, a new dog, 2 kids, 5 tanks and if you would have told me 10 years ago, that my life would look like this, I would NEVER have believed you.
Life has a funny way of helping you out when you think all has gone wrong.
please remember the best is yet to come.
Things are gonna change and somewhere there's a woman that deserves your love.
Hang in there and keep your chin up.

thanks guys. i don't think i could ever look at her the same way. working it out is not an option.

i guess i will be moving to my mom's house... at least i will have company, and i can save some money that way.

i know about addiction first hand, noddy. keeping aquariums has helped loads in keeping my from falling back into it, and am not planning on going down that road again... i just need to steer clear of the pills. that is one good thing she did for me, helped me get sober.

anyways i have a lot of shit to do now, and i think i will take a week off of work to get my shit together and all of my stuff moved. Yall don't know how bad i don't want to move those tanks!

any suggestions on how to move a big tank without killing off the BB? how long can the fish last in an ice chest? it's only a 10 minute drive from my mom's to my house, but moving the tank will take hours, i'm sure

Thor, Good luck Honey... and remember, everything happens for a reason...

to move the big tank... Put your fish in a big container, keep an air bar on.
move them, keep water in your filter. Unplug and take it along with the fish.
Deliver to new house, Plug in filter in bucket. Turn flow down as to not push fish right out of said bucket.

Move big tank, set up and fill... And said fish, filter, and bucket of water.

Hope this helps...And you know we are all here for you! Keep your chin up!